Here is Tuesday's Life Court...
Scott and Sadie,
I met this girl six months ago sitting all by herself at a Starbucks. I sat down at this communal table where she was and we hit it off. For four months we met at mutual locations for our dates and because of the pandemic, it was a lot of outdoor activities.
It wasn't until five months in that I realized how rich my girlfriends parents are. She drives a Mercedes, but I know people that drive them that don't necessarily have a lot of money. Since we are getting kind of serious, I expressed to her my concerns over my financial status. I make money, but not the kind she is accustomed to. Plus, I'm not in the kind of career where I will ever have that kind of money. Money is honestly not that important to me, but I don't want to break up with someone just because they are super-wealthy either.
In our discussion, my girlfriend said that she's ok with me not making that much money as long as I'm ok with using her family's money to maintain her standard of living. She's used to a big house, fancy cars, boats, private schools and Ivy league universities. I'm just concerned that accepting this standard will weaken my ability moving forward to have a say in what happens in my life. I don't want to be trapped in a situation where a family who finances my standard of living has a say in how I want to live.
I love this girl, but her conditions on maintaining a standard of living have me questioning everything. I'm just curious what your listeners think in Life Court.
Thanks - please keep me anonymous
Okay - what's your advice for anonymous in Scott and Sadie's Life Court?